Goalsetting Deluxe for Confidence

If you want to get ahead in life, you need a direction. You have to know where to go, the journey is. This direction is determined by our goals and. Of the vision of our ideal life Without direction and purpose, we are adrift on the sea of ​​life. "Aimless" as the saying goes.

"Would you tell me, please, which way I have to do?"

"That depends to a considerable extent dependent on where you want," answered the cat.

"Oh, this is pretty indifferent," said Alice.

"Then it is no matter which way you go," said the cat.

-Alice in Wonderland-

To drift you may, from time to time also be beautiful, as long as you move. However, if you want to make more sense of direction in your life, then this article is for you.

Before you even can set goals, you need a vision. A picture should be like your life and what areas are important to you. This ensures that your action gets a context. Your vision for your life, provides the emotional component that drives you forward. It provides the motivation.

It's about what kind of person you want to be and what kind of life you want to live. This knowledge and knowledge is more valuable than the question of where you want to go. "Why am I doing this?" The question you need to answer before you decide where you want to go.

How do you find your vision:

The first step is to find out what areas of life are important to you and develop into what you want. Potential areas may include:

Health, career, education, family and friends, etc...

These areas are heavily dependent on your inner qualities.

You can also create thematic clusters. So, to summarize different aspects of life. Example: Health, Food and Nutrition or career, business and education. What for? Which you will find later.

Task: What are the areas where you want to further development and that are important to you. Forming at least 3 of these themes cluster. But no more than five.

My clusters are:

Nr1: health, exercise, diet, yoga, martial arts

NR2: Business, Coaching, Training

NR3: Social networking, getting to know people, friends, family, relationship,

NR4: travel, personal development, a lot of reading, writing, music (drums), Culture,

The second step is about to make your vision clearer for you. This helps to train your mind and focus to put on it, what you want to achieve. Your subconscious mind says: "Ok, that's what he wants. Let's keep our eyes open. " A somewhat more esoteric explanation would be to say that you are by your thoughts on the same vibrational level as your target state begibst, and thus draw all the best in your life. The universe is on your side. However, this step is important.

Task: You start with the first cluster and write a short text, as it is, this goal have already ACHIEVED. Write in the present tense. Your sentences should be with, I am, I begin etc.

This you do in the following subdivision: being, doing have. So, what kind of person am I? What I do, day in a day? What have I achieved? Materially and emotionally?

It is crucial as we have said, to write as if you had all this been achieved. Your subconscious mind can not differentiate between perception and memory. You get a "feel" for your goals, your future. Thus receives all its own special dynamic and you deal with it a lot of success avoidance strategies from the outset.

Emails to the Future Me:

I stumbled across this page by accident. I use it only found none. On futureme.org you the opportunity to send e-mails to yourself. However, with a self-imposed time-shifting. You can, for example, an e-mail to yourself, which then comes back in a year with you.

This is great for our company here. The first thing you do is cut your visions (do its cluster +, have text) to send with one year delay in yourself. Write a brief introduction to the motto:

"Love Me in the future,

This is a description of life that you will lead... I'm looking forward already.

All the best

I am from the past "

Next year, this email comes in again with you, and you may wonder what you have at that time wanted so everything is and how much them have been fulfilled.

Paving the way - goals - self-confidence boost

Now it's about the journey. In order to do the things are to achieve your goals.

The question is this:

"What do I do every day, to reach the goal is the inevitable?"

This is a powerful set that allows almost no excuses. Also important is the "daily". What do you just want to make at the beginning, are little rituals and habits, so things that you do every day if possible. And not only so that you get any closer to your goal, but so it is inevitable that goal can not be achieved.

Habits and rituals:

Habits and rituals (not to be confused with religious rituals) is a very powerful means to bring your life to another level. Simply explained rituals and habits are things that you do regularly in a fixed manner and that every day. Everyone has such a kind of morning ritual: get up, shower, have breakfast,, brush teeth, dress, go to work, for example. Starting at 7:15 ending 8:00.

The biggest advantage of rituals and habits is that once they are sufficiently integrated into everyday life, are performed by itself without extra motivation. If you, for example in your morning ritual with einbaust 15min yoga, it takes quite a week or so accustomed to you until you have it, but it is an equally integral part, like brushing your teeth. And you will not need to motivate. It has become a habit.

Custom before quality and quantity:

Many make the mistake of trying to take off at 100% percent. You want to lose weight and plan every day for 2 hours to go to the gym. After about three days it brings the reality with a violent sore back, and the noble plan is overturned.

Much smarter and easier it is to form the habit and only then to work on the quality and quantity. The habit does not matter whether you are training 10 minutes a day, or 3 hours. If you get used to it, you get used to it. Later you can extend the time in small steps still.

The customs and rituals that bring you closer to your goal:

What you have to do every day so that your achievement is inevitable? Think about. For each of your life areas, the previous exercise, a ritual that you will do each day One is quite enough for a start, you can later install with still more. Do not want too much at the same time the error. This is a play for time.

Possible in health habits could be: Every day after getting up to do a half-hour fitness.

Or in lifestyle and travel every day 2 € in a piggy bank and take 15 minutes to learn a new language (if you save 2 euros each day, then you can, with the money in 2 years max everywhere holiday where you want to do).

Just start. Remember always habit before quality (of course still switch your brain on) and quantity. You can expand the whole later.

How long it takes for a habit that is automatically? In general about 30 days. Then you come almost can not do without. Integrated into everyday life in the whole of the bay is in about a week.

For more information on customs and rituals:

Especially in the beginning, it is recommended to be precise and disciplined. Even if you einbaust just little things in your everyday life, that means he must not be sloppy.

I recommend that for every ritual if possible to determine a fixed time period and especially. A good idea would be, for example, lead to a ToDo list and write the new things in your calendar.

Difference between customs and rituals:

I mixed up the two terms now used and very inaccurate. So now, a brief definition, as I use them.

A ritual is a grouping of different actions carried out deliberately with a purpose. Most rituals are timed. Such as the morning ritual.

Habits are subject to more of a trigger-response relationship: as I turn out the light (action / effect) when I leave the house (cause). Or for our topic here: I enjoy audio books when I drive by car or I meditate before I go to bed.

Both are subject to the most important idea, "What must I do to achieve my goal which is inevitable."

It is also important that it is sometimes not possible a habit every day through constant feeding. Your topic is as sport, but you do not want to go to the gym every day. No problem. It is important to make as I have said, the daily habit of sports. Whether you are now on a day 1 hour go to the gym and is doing another home 10 minutes Stretching matter. As long as you're doing something EVERY DAY to get closer to your goals. It is then important but still a solid week to have rhythm (eg gym every Tuesday and Thursday)

Vision vs. target:

So far I have not yet written a lot of what "normal" achievement texts like. Often taught, the goals must be precisely defined, that they shall be terminable and that success should be measured precisely. Goals should be written as SMART. A goal must therefore be Specific-Measurable-Accepted, Realistic and schedulable. The Smart model results in clear, measurable and verifiable targets. A great model with a small flaw. Three factors in this type to detect targets completely swept under the rug or assumed as implied.

These factors are: the emotion, motivation and why.

If you want to achieve something in their heart of hearts out (or because it's your job, and you have no choice), then you can this model (or similar) help, see your goal clearly and achieve.

I recommend I put it "classic" goals to highlight stages and shortly to coordinate your progress. These goals can you as a reminder to "Future Me" re-send it to yourself.

To learn how these milestones are set, here's an article from last year, which accurately describes the issue and provides you all the tools.

In this article, I focus more deliberately on the vision that ultimately the motivation and the "Yes, I want to achieve" triggers in you.

Love the process:

In the book "The Long Con", the author describes George Leonard, the difference between a champion and an amateur during martial arts training.

The amateur wants to come and get better. While he makes a simple exercise he is dissatisfied. Ever. Always a new technique. That is his wish. He often times he is not satisfied with his current skill that he has. With one eye he looks to the more advanced students and wishes he were already there.

For the master training is itself the work of him who brings joy. He knows that through his daily workout can happen otherwise than to achieve his goal and "better" are. And if not? Not matter. He trains exercising due because it is the one that makes the moment makes him happy.

Be the master of the mind. The only thing that matters is that YOU TO YOUR DESTINATION TO move. What if you want your "goal" would achieve (in terms of final state) never? Are you still able to move in that direction, just for fun? If you can, when you are free from the result, then you can never run out of motivation and you can do nothing else than to be successful.

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